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How to write the best maid of honor toast ever

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One of the biggest duties of the maid or matron of honor is the wedding toast. For many MOHs, this tends to be the most nerve racking and stressful part of their role. Thankfully, there are tons of resources available to help you write the best maid of honor toast ever. You can even hire someone to help write it for you! Point is, take a deep breath and read on for some guidance on writing the perfect wedding speech.

Maid of Honor Speech Introduction Examples

First things first, the introduction. If you are daring, you may venture to start with a joke. But no pressure, do what feels comfortable and genuine. The only real “requirement” here is to make sure to briefly introduce yourself!

“Good evening everyone and thank you all for being here! For those of you who don’t know me, my name is {NAME}, and I’m {BRIDE’S NAME}’s {RELATIONSHIP}.

“Hi everyone! For those of you who don’t know me, my name is {NAME}, and I’m {BRIDE’S NAME}’s {RELATIONSHIP}. We are so happy you are all here to celebrate this wonderful couple.”

Hand holding champagne for maid of honor toast

Good ideas for maid of honor speeches

Here’s 10 quick good ideas and tips for writing a maid of honor speech:

  1. Consider the tone for your speech – think about what you are most comfortable with, and also what the bride would want.
  2. Don’t go too long, and if you’re nervous, keep it short!
  3. Keep it personal, but don’t use inside jokes.
  4. Make sure your content is appropriate for your audience – IE keep it PG!
  5. Stay away from cliches..
  6. Don’t bring up old boyfriends/partners, or any embarrassing stories
  7. Practice! This will help you feel (and look!) more confident
  8. Use a formula to help keep your speech organized (examples below)
  9. Use an expert or service if you need more help
  10. Have fun! This can feel like a lot of pressure, but take a deep breath and have fun with it.

Where to find maid of honor speech examples and inspiration:

Unless you’re a pro MOH speech writer, you are probably going to want some examples to inspire you. Here’s where we find the best inspiration!

  1. Youtube
  2. TikTok
  3. These 32 Examples from Wedding Forward

Can you pay someone to write maid of honor speech?

Turns out, you can! Maybe you’re totally stuck, don’t have time, or simply need some extra help. Whatever the reason, there are certainly ways that you can get some extra support to help write your best maid of honor toast ever. If you hire help, you’ll simply provide the writer with some key details to help make the speech genuine:

  • Relationship to the bride (friend, sister, etc)
  • Inside jokes or stories
  • A little about the couple
  • Type of speech you’re going for (funny, emotional, witty, etc)

Using AI to write a maid of honor speech

If you’re looking for a modern and convenient way to craft the perfect maid of honor toast, you’re in luck! Technology has come to the rescue with tools like the Maid of Honor Speech Generator from Bridesmaid For Hire. This AI-powered tool can help you create a heartfelt and memorable speech with ease. Just provide a few key details, such as your relationship to the bride, inside jokes or stories, a bit about the couple, and the tone you’re aiming for (funny, emotional, witty, etc), and let the AI work its magic. It’s a fantastic way to relieve some of the stress and ensure your toast is a hit. So, take advantage of the technological help available and deliver a speech that will be cherished forever!

Maid of Honor Speech Structures

As we mentioned earlier, it tends to be helpful to loosely follow a formula or structure for the speech. This will help the speech to feel organized, give you direction, and keep it to the right length.

Formula from Sugar and Charm:

A. Introduce yourself
B. Sweet/personal story about the person
C. Funny/sweet story about your own feelings towards the person or why the couple are great for each other
D. Sentimental words to the couple
E. A simple salutation – Cheers!

Formula from Brilliant Earth:

A. Introduce yourself and share brief history of your relationship with the bride
B. Talk about what you love about the bride
C. Transition to complimenting the partner
D. Wish them both well

A general structure from The Knot

  • An introduction, along with an explanation about your connection to the happy couple.
  • A word of thanks to the couple for inviting you to be part of their special day.
  • One or two personal anecdotes, like a favorite memory, joke or sentiment that most guests will understand.
  • Encouraging words of advice or a thoughtful quote about the newlyweds’ future.
  • A closing remark, along with the invitation for guests to raise their glasses.

We hope this guide was useful in easing your wedding toast stresses! If you need more guidance on your role as maid of honor, check out this post next.


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